Where do you come from?

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DISCLAIMER: THIS GUIDE IS EXTREMELY THOROUGH AND WILL BRING UP FEELINGS, EMOTIONS, AND EVEN PHYSICAL SENSATIONS. TAKE TIME TO COMPLETE IT AND SEEK A THERAPIST IF YOU CONSIDER IT NECESSARY.  IT DOES NOT REPLACE ANY KIND OF PSYCHOLOGICAL AID. MAKE A SPACE TO MEDITATE YOUR ANSWERS AND A SPACE TO REST AFTER. 

 Self-awareness in this day and age is vital. It is the essence of your individuality. It is what makes you competitive in work or school, it's what makes you who you are. Adolescence is an important stage because it's when kids start to question their parents, their ways of thinking and start forming their own selves. However, some people never find themselves or lose themselves seeking external validation, social approval or because of other triggers like fear or guilt.

I didn't realize how little self-awareness I had until one day, in rehab, during an exercise, the description of me from others was completely different to my own. This meant that I was presenting myself in ways that were untrue to my essence.
Self-awareness allows us to recognize ourselves from others and will help you in every aspect of your life: knowing your strengths and weaknesses to work on them, gaining confidence and self-esteem; or maybe even finding your life mission and your purpose.

In this first section of self-awareness, we'll talk about where you come from. It's important to break with judgment here and pay attention. All of these questions ask HOW YOU PERCEIVED your past. Not the fact. Try to be honest about how you felt instead of how you think you should have felt even if that involves dramatizing or victimizing, these are feelings that come from your inner child and must come out unfiltered to make the most of it:
  •       How did you perceive your childhood? How was your relationship with those around you? What made you feel happy, afraid, sad? What events marked your childhood? How was your relationship with your parents? 
  •       How did you perceive your relationship with money? Did you get stressed? Did you feel you needed more? Did you feel secure? Did you feel stable?
  •       How did you perceive your relationship with your body? Were you comfortable with yourself? Did you feel insecure or judged? 
  •       How did you feel about sex? Was it a tabú? Or was it mentioned at home? When you started being sexually active, how was the experience? How did you feel? 
Write down these questions to read them after. Keep them. You will discover many whys to your current decision-making process, trains of thought and actions. Also, review the feeling attached to your words they will hold the key to feelings you might have thought were healed.

Afterwards, rest, most likely you will feel very tired. Allow yourself to let the information sink in.

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